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How To Be A Good Conversationalist

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“True happiness arises, in the first place, from the enjoyment of one’s self, and in the next, from the friendship and conversation of a few select companions.” ~Joseph Addison

Do you realize that we spend a great part of our waking hours talking?

When we are alone and do not feel like reading, we go around looking for someone to talk with.

To be a good conversationalist is not easy. Some people have much to say when they are with members of their family, but they become tongue-tied and uneasy when they are with strangers or people they know slightly. Conversation can be a source of much fun. Everyone likes to listen to jokes. We all enjoy listening to adventure stories and interesting experiences. Through conversation we keep our natures warm and receptive; we develop human sympathy and greater understanding.

Here are some hints to make conversation interesting and fruitful:

Be a good listener. Conversation is like a game. There is give and take. I talk and you listen. Now it is your turn to talk and I will listen. A good listener shows interest on his/her face.

Be friendly and amiable; look cheerful and good-natured. Nothing will drive people away from you sooner than a sour look or an unfriendly expression.


Have something interesting to contribute to the conversation. Broaden your interests. Read books and magazines. Listen to older people; they generally have something interesting to say. Listen to the radio. Keep your mind active and alert.

Be honest; be yourself. If a subject about which you know nothing is introduced, admit your ignorance. Never try to bluff.

Do not be afraid to ask questions now and then. But avoid useless or rude interruptions.

Before introducing a subject for conversation, be sure that it will interest the group. Consider their ages and their occupations.

Do not encourage malicious or idle gossip. Avoid subjects that might cause arguments. Avoid contradicting others often.

Remember to speak correctly and distinctly. Use your best English and your best voice.

Tell me something about you.

You can talk for hours.

I don’t mind.

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Mary Jane

Mary Jane Go has been teaching English for over 13 years. She believes that it is very important to learn English and learn it by heart. For her, it's always the right time for a dance party and that hanging out with friends is indispensable.

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